The following information is meant to help you in the planning of your wedding. Your wedding is a wonderful and important day. The minister who officiates your wedding will have a large role to play in this special day. Here you will find the parameters I use in performing ceremonies. This allows all of us to be on the same page together.
Should you have any questions about this document please do not hesitate to ask.
The first meeting will be a meet and greet time. This is an opportunity for you to hear what I believe about marriage and what I want to accomplish in the pre-marital counseling time. It is also a time for you to let me know what you would want out of the time together. During this time the I will also want to hear from both the bride and groom about where they are in their spiritual journey, i.e. do both of you have a shared commitment when it comes to who Christ is and his claims on our lives.
I will not commit to doing the premarital counseling until after this meeting. I also won’t expect you to commit until after you have had time to talk with each other about whether or not you feel comfortable meeting the expectations of the pre-marital course program.
I will not perform wedding ceremonies without the bride and groom undergoing pre-marital counseling. Normally, I will do this counseling. If other arrangements for pre-marital counseling need to be made, the couple will need to discuss this with me during the initial meeting. Failure to complete the premarital counseling may be cause for me to decline performing the ceremony.
Believing that marriage is a holy and sacred gift from God, it is my desire that couples approach marriage according to biblical standards and in a way that is pleasing to God. In this regard, I reserve the right to decline officiating a wedding if couples do not agree with the following commitments:
A Commitment to Purity – Believing that the sexual relationship has been designed and intended for marriage, I ask that you agree to abstain from any sexual relationship until after the wedding. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11) I also expect that the couple will not be living together prior to the wedding.
A Common Faith Commitment – The Scriptures are clear that a man and a woman have to have a common faith commitment to be married. This means that a Christian is not allowed to marry a non-Christian (1 Corinthians 6:14-16; Romans 10:9-10). If both the bride and groom do not share the same commitment to Jesus I will not be able to perform the ceremony.